The 4 Agreements Book

I think if you read “The Four Accords” and other books by Don Miguel Ruiz (or mine!), you would find a lot of the same philosophy in the modern version of the Toltec tradition. Agreements help to recognize where we hold these self-judgments and fears, and tradition provides tools to “become artists of our lives and make our lives a masterpiece of art.” The work is deep and painstaking. The rather religious attitude at the beginning of the book discouraged me at first. I decided to stick to it and keep listening. I was rewarded when the book outlined some useful principles:1. Be immaculate with your words.2. Don`t take anything personally.3. Don`t make assumptions.4. Always do your best. Easy, not always easy to practice, but swing with me! Miguel has already mentioned John:1 several times. For example, on January 1, 2012, he posted on Facebook, www.facebook.com/donMiguelRuiz/posts/10150478684012771) “The Gospel of John in the Bible expresses very clearly the power of the Word: `In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word is God.` Whatever language we speak, our intention is manifested in the word.

I read this and I fully understand the points he was trying to make. It is a little more sustained when you read the voice of knowledge. We learn everything as we grow up, part of what we learn is not positive. Many of us had parents who were young or who had themselves been abused, and we learn their “faith habits” habits and patterns as we learn to count, talk, read, etc. Before the age of three, we do not know anger. We repeat the actions of our facilitators and our authority persons as children to obtain love, comfort and emotional support from them. We repeat their model because it makes them love and makes us grateful for their behavior. On the other hand, what we did could have been interpreted as “false” and we could be punished.

Perhaps this punishment was severe or unfair and gave us an emotional memory of pain and fear. The repetition of similar anxieties makes this reaction a “behavioural pattern. As a child who wants love, you will make more effort not to upset this janitor and probably repeat the action that the enemy punishment has provoked to “fix” it. The result will be similar. These beliefs could begin as a fear when presented with emotional memories and repeated traumas, that fear eventually becomes anger, hostility, hatred, resentment, and that we learn to reactivate the proposition. Where did the love go? You can no longer learn these patterns. You can see what caused the emotion, change the way you perceive it and get another emotional reaction result for future episodes. At some point, you perceive it and you repel the result.

Perhaps you can even go back and forgive your parents, even if they were offensive, because they knew nothing else, because they had learned something as behaviors. It`s like changing the past when you can see everything and feel different. It may take a search for soul to find love in there, to heal oneself. I discovered that people with different levels of education, especially spirituality, read the volumes “otherwise.” I read the book and I felt good, maybe a little irritated by chapter one, and that might represent a belief I still have to work on.


Published on: April 13, 2021  -  Filed under: Uncategorized